Two skills nobody taught you (but should have)


There are two fundamental skills I believe everyone should develop as early as possible: emotional regulation and body awareness.

Most people get why emotional regulation matters. It's the ability to recognise an emotion arriving, identify it precisely (sometimes anger is actually fear, or a subtler feeling like injustice), and pause before responding... so you can respond thoughtfully rather than reactively.

But body awareness's trickier.

You might be thinking: "Of course I know when I'm in pain, when I'm hot or when I'm hungry." But... do you, though?

Because most people I work with can't actually describe their sensations at first. Is it warning pain ("stop before you injure yourself") or useful pain (a stretch on a particularly tight muscle)? What type of pain is it (sharp, dull, diffuse, precise, electric...)? Where does it radiate? Is it constant?

Once, I even had a client tell me he had no pain anywhere. But when I asked why he couldn't lift his arm very high, he replied: "Because it hurts when I do."

His pain was so integrated into his baseline that he'd forgotten it existed. He'd simply deleted an entire movement from his repertoire.

This level of disconnection is shockingly common.

We live in our heads. We use our bodies less and less. And the less we use them, the less we're able to use them (see: my client's arm).

If you're approaching 40 (or beyond), you've probably noticed that recovery takes longer now. Which means listening to your body becomes increasingly non-negotiable if you want to catch problems early.

Several of my clients came to me recently because they no longer felt like they truly inhabited their bodies. They'd abandoned them to focus on children, careers... their own needs had faded to background noise.

Then one day they woke up with pain so intense it couldn't be ignored anymore.

That's always how it ends: when you ignore your body's signals, it screams louder.

Yoga is such a brilliant way to reverse this. Every session invites you to observe sensations, compare one side to the other, gauge and adjust intensity to find what serves you best.

If you enjoy journaling, write 2-3 lines daily about your energy level, the sensations you notice, describe discomfort in detail, but also what feels good. With practice, it becomes second nature.

And in 1:1 work, we decode what YOUR body is trying to tell you. We teach you to respond to your specific pain patterns and needs, and restore the mobility you lost over time.

Your body's been whispering... Are you ready to listen?

Om, peace 🧡

Clem

Clémence Dieryck

I'm a bilingual yoga teacher who helps people who sit a lot gain mobility, move without pain and reduce their stress.

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